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Reflections by Caitlin Fertig  December 12, 2011

              In the most general terms, I found The Struggle for the Authentic Self: Creating Your True Self for a Peaceful World, written by Dr. Felix Padilla, to be a true eye opening journey to changing yourself into what you want the world to be.   Step by step, the reader is introduced to possibilities and potentials never realized  before, like our greatness, because of an ever-lasting or  constant process of conditioning  that starts at a young age and of which most people are unaware or unconscious.

                The beginning of this challenging book  is understanding how the overwhelming majority people in this world live day by day never recognizing the abundance of greatness inside of them.  So most people live ordinary, common or conventional lives or what Dr. Padilla refers to as the lesser self.  However terrible it seems that less than 95% of the people in the world have no idea who they really are and what their purpose in life is, the explanation is that they are just doing what society asks.  Individuals do not question themselves nor do they question the society they live in.  They simply exist believing to be living a true and authentic human reality. 

                One of the things I appreciated the most in terms of the way Dr.  Padilla presents the story of becoming the authentic self was learning that everyone is creative.  That the real meaning of “to live,” rather than “to exist,” is to create something new every day, or expand on something that already in place. Before reading the book,  I used to believe that a person was born creative, like an artist or musician. However, everyone that lives (rather than exists) is capable of being creative and Dr. Padilla explains that creativity is something that has been conditioned out of us or forced into a dormant state because creativity is something that society cannot control. In other words, creative people are the ones who truly change the world.  And they change the world according to their imagination. 

                Another very important discussion I found most revealing is how many people are afraid of failure.  People want to do everything “right” but have discovered it just isn't possible. But until people awaken to how much they have been conditioned to think and act in certain ways; that they have been conditioned to conform to the central ideas, values and beliefs of society—only then would a person understand that the pressure to succeed is hardwired and stationed in our sub-conscious mind.  I almost felt a little lighter, like the weight of everyday pressures had lifted some after reading the bottom of page 83. This is because it gives a true meaning for what failure should be.  As the book says, failure is just an alternative route to happiness, success and all of the things you truly desire. Accepting failure as something to be learned from is a powerful message I feel we should all be taught instead of being ridiculed for failing.  

                I enjoyed reading this book so much, probably because before I did, I was society’s poster child, doing everything according to society’s mandates and always feeling the pressure of just trying to survive. I plan to give the word of this book, start my goal of finding my authentic self because I want to find out who I am and what is my life's purpose is. Once I have reached this goal and have become proficient in my purpose, I look forward to giving the gift of knowledge to other individuals and helping them free themselves from the lesser self and the survival mode of conformity. I thank The Struggle for the Authentic Self and Dr. Padilla for my awakening.

              

 

Book Review of The Struggle for the Authentic Self: Creating Your True Self for a Peaceful World by Dr. Felix M. Padilla.

By Marilyn C. Horne!

December 10, 2011

In an era of hopelessness and despair, Dr. Padilla’s book The Struggle for the Authentic Self shines like a beacon of hope and clarity for our evolution as members of the human race. The book’s main focus is that we must find our true self – the person we came into this existence to experience – in order to experience true happiness and bring forth our unique talents for the benefit of all humanity and the Universe.

At first glance, the topic may seem similar to other “new age” books, however, The Struggle for the Authentic Self is the most unique book I have read on this topic. It points out that the root cause of our confusion over who we  are really meant to be are is because society has purposely conditioned us to conform in ways that lead us to live life as a lesser self; one who will follow the path that keeps society’s structure in place. At best we just think we are unique and free to live life as we wish. Another unique quality of this book is that it combines scientific fact with spiritual themes to provide a real path for individuals to follow in their quest for the authentic self. Many other books on this topic give the reader vague advice – such as “just think positive and it will manifest”. This is not the case with The Struggle for the Authentic Self. Chapter by chapter, Dr. Padilla clearly outlines the problems, solutions, and steps that will lead the reader to their authentic self. It is this clarity that gives the reader hope and inspiration.    

Chapter One starts with a clear definition of how the majority of humanity lives, surrounded by possibilities, yet convinced that we live in a world of “lack”. It is this delusion that compels us to live as a lesser self, who settles for whatever society has conditioned us to believe is our role in life. This conditioning has been taking place since we were born. Indeed, it has been in place for thousands of years since we evolved from a society of hunter gathers and became a hierarchical society. We have been conditioned to believe society’s lies for so long that we do not even realize that we are being controlled. In fact, those who try to become their authentic selves are often labeled as social deviants. One of the most important statements in the book is made in the first chapter. “How can a person possibly know what he/she is supposed to do in life without knowing the authentic self!” You cannot possibly find your true calling if you don’t know who you are. This is the first time I have heard this concept. It makes so much more sense than “Find your passion and everything else will follow.”

The book goes on to explain the difference between living as the authentic self, using our full creativity and imagination, as opposed to existing as the lesser self – merely following along like sheep imitating other people’s ideas. In order to break out of this mold we must raise our consciousness to bring forth new ideas and solutions. These ideas can only come from our own intuitive thinking.  I have always thought that I was a free thinker. However, at this point in the book I realized that I had taken the wrong path many years ago, and had stopped listening to my own intuitive thoughts. I had altered my path to find a career that paid well and had ignored my passion to help people find their authentic self and their true path. I believe this point in the book will have the same effect on many other readers. It is a time of sad reflection, but as we move into the next chapter, Dr. Padilla takes the reader from the hopelessness and disappointment of their personal reality to the possibilities of self-transformation through the power of the mind. 

First and foremost, Dr. Padilla explains, we must reclaim the power of our minds and learn to control our thought process. To do this we must understand how our mind works. Dr. Padilla gives a simple, yet detailed explanation of how the conscious and subconscious minds work, and how to bridge the subconscious and conscious minds in order to connect directly to the Universal Mind. This is where our power lies. Once we can access the power of the Universal Mind our lives will unfold as our authentic self directs and our possibilities are unlimited. Dr. Padilla does not gloss over this process. He is truthful about the amount of work and dedication it takes to be constantly in control of our thoughts, and not just during brief periods of meditation, prayer, chanting, yoga and other activities we practice to calm the mind.

We find encouragement for this process in the chapters on happiness, suffering, faith and living in gratitude. Here Dr. Padilla reveals that true happiness is found within us, and is experienced by becoming our authentic selves. Suffering actually brings us closer to our goal of living as the authentic self because when we experience suffering and disappointment in our lives we know where to make changes. When we analyze events in this manner we learn to live in gratitude, a calming experience, which also reminds to pay attention to what is going on around us. This is not to be confused with living in survival mode and resigning ourselves to the fact that “life is hard.”

My favorite part of the book is the end because it is my hope for the future of the world.  It explains true giving as the gift of knowledge meant to help others awaken to the potential of their authentic selves. However, it is the process of true giving that reconnects us to the experience of oneness with all humanity. Through this leap of empathy, we are able to experience the heart and soul of our fellow man. This allows us to empathize with their suffering, and once we can truly experience the suffering of our fellow man, this is the path to world peace. Giving brings us together and allows us to live as one, which is our natural state. It is here that we realize that our quest for the authentic self is really a quest that benefits all humanity. Our special gifts are for everyone to enjoy. We have come full circle and are back to living a life of creativity, love and connectedness just as we were when we first began this journey as children.

I highly recommend this book to anyone “who has ears to hear.” It is a blueprint for the type of society 99% of humanity is crying out for. It is no mistake or coincidence that this book was published at this time in our history.

 

 

December 8, 2011

Review of THE STRUGGLE FOR THE AUTHENTIC SELF:  Creating Your True Self for a Peaceful World, By: Dr. Felix M. Padilla

Reviewer:  Robin Kranz

            As children, we are able to see all possibilities without limits.  We can imagine life as everything we want.  As we get older, we start listening to the authority figures in our lives, parents, teachers, etc. or what is generally referred to as society.  We are told that you really cannot live in this fantasy world anymore.  “You need to grow up,” we are told.  But what this means is that “You need to conform and do as everyone else does.”  In The Struggle for the Authentic Self, Dr. Padilla calls this process socialization or conditioning.  Most people are conditioned to conform to the central ideas, values and beliefs of society, believing that these things are correct, appropriate and necessary for them.  So, through conditioning, we see what society wants us to see and we achieve the possibilities society establishes for us.  In other words, the little kid in us dies off and we become predictable robotic humans.  In this regards, Dr. Padilla uses a quote from David Henry Thoreau to express the sadness that comes with living a life of conformity:  “Most people die without ever hearing their song.”   

            The most important part of the book to me was in Chapter 2: To Live or Exist because  it is here in the book where Dr. Padilla addresses this issue with much clarity. The second paragraph of the chapter states:  “To live is to be creative, to construct your life from your own imagination and intuitive feelings, emotions and beliefs rather than through existing societal ideas and beliefs.  To live is to always be connected to our creative imagination, visualizing our lives according to those things that we feel to be of great importance and value to us, those things that others often find to be strange and peculiar but which to us provoke the most exhilarating feelings.”  This is how I have started looking at everything around me.  I feel creativity frees my soul.  To do what makes me feel right and not follow the written instruction is how I feel most alive.  I have instilled creativity into my daughters and taught them they need to step back and look at the big picture before they make decisions that affect their lives.  There are always other ways to do things and if you find your way, you are bound to be happier.  I followed a path as a teenager and did what I was told I had to do.  I went to college even though I was not prepared or ready for this kind of thing.  I did it because I was told this is what you do.  I failed at college.  And the failure made me feel bad about myself and bad about my life.  I now look back and see if I had been given choices I could have turned that around.  Now that I am prepared and know what I want, I am succeeding.  It took a lifetime to get to this point, but I hope I have taught my daughters how to handle it differently.  I do not want them going through life feeling inadequate. 

            For this chapter alone, I highly recommend The Struggle for the Authentic Self.  However, the entire book is phenomenal.  Throughout, you will be challenged to see yourself and others so differently.  What you know is challenged again and again.  Afterall, that is the purpose of the book.  Or as Dr. Padilla puts it so well, “before we can find our true, authentic self, before we can achieve freedom, we must learn how to unlearn because most of what we have learned is false, it’s a deception.”

          

 
 
 
November 20, 2011

Mariamme Baum ‎"The Struggle for the Authentic Self
"not only saved my life, it made it simply ecstatic in so many aspects, an everyday becauming more authentic feels like a blessing!!! So many reasons to be grateful to have you in my life as a writer, a teacher and a mentor, thank you for who you are, Felix, Hugz, Authentic ~M
 

September 15, 2011

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Padilla,

                I just wanted to take a minute to say thank you for giving me the opportunity to read your book, The Struggle for the Authentic Self.  I am not a big reader because I always seem to feel that I don’t have time or that I am too busy and should do something more productive, even though I love reading.  I am 20 years old and working towards a biology degree.  I go to school 4 days a week and work at the Zoo 5 days a week, usually 8 hours shifts, therefore, I can never really seem to make time for myself. 

                I am a huge thinker but also a huge worry wart.  Most of the stress that consumes my life is due to other people and their problems.  I am never satisfied until I can solve everybody else’s problems and until I know that everybody else is happy with me.  I know that this is a huge problem because it seems impossible to make everybody happy and I seem to get stressed out because not everyone is going to be happy with me. 

                I also grew up in a very stressful environment, with my father being an alcoholic and very mentally abusive. My parents were together until I was 15 so the majority of my life so far has consisted of arguing and screaming until 2:00 in the morning.  I love my dad very much but I also feel that this way of living really affected my thoughts and emotions now.  I grew up by learning how “not to be” which is why I’ve made it my personal goal to never end up like my parents in their relationship.

                I strongly feel that this book came into my life at a very crucial time, right when I was starting to realize what to watch out for even in my own relationship and also how to ease my mind with the stresses that seem to take over.  I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 2 years and he constantly tells me to let the little things go and not to stress over things I cannot control. 

                It took me a little longer than normal to finish this book because I read every line really concentrating on what I was reading because I felt so comfortable and content with what I was reading.  I strongly believe that everyone has a calling and that people can do whatever they put their mind to.  No one in my family has ever been musically inclined but I really have a taking for music.  I believe that music is part of my calling because it really makes me express myself.  I sing and play about whatever comes naturally and everything that is in my head.  These things make me happy and this book made me realize the importance of staying happy even in times of stress and also mourning. 

                It was motivating reading all of the quotes in the book.  Even people like Helen Keller, with all of the hardships that she experienced, remained so positive and made such a difference in the world.  I know that I can’t change the world but I also know that I have so much left to learn and that it is possible to make a difference!  I really enjoyed reading this book and I will be reading it many more times as well as recommending it to many of my friends.  Thank you again for sharing it with me and for letting me share my thoughts with you.

Sincerely, Michele!  

 
Estimado Felix,

Its a pleasure to have such a great friendship like yours. i've been meaning to shoot you an email some weeks ago, but i just keep reading your book at a pace that i cannot stop (taking into account that i can only read a book while on the train). i just started chapter sixteen, and since ch. 10 i wanted to let you know that your writing reminds me a lot of p., coelho and the secret and the law of attraction, but i know it doesn't stop there the journey ahead of us is full of achievements, happiness and stumbling upon challenges that makes us stronger, thanks felix. it's not an easy task to think about the the same thought for more than six seconds, but i try.

gracias,

Arturo Arévalo
UMassBoston
 

 

Primitivo Cruz
Primitivo Cruz11:27am Apr 27th
Subject: Hello there
Dr. Padilla,
My brother gave me a copy of your book, and I can't put it down. I sure wish I had been a student of yours when I was at DePaul. Alot of it expresses how I feel. I have just never had the language to articulate it. You have given me some great insight, and I'm only on chapter 8. It's almost as if this book came to me in the nick of time. Thank you for writing it. 
Hi Felix,
Lynn Thelen commented on The Struggle for the Authentic Self's Wall post.
Lynn wrote: "Yes, this book definitely address many issues of authenticity and why we are not our true selves. Felix has insight beyond what many authors posses, gathering from life experience and extensive research. The true work takes courage and dedication, but aren't we worth it?"
 

Linda Curtis via Felix Padilla

I have read this book and enjoyed it very much. Dr. Felix Padilla has a way of connecting with the true heart. He mentions the aspects of ourselves that we are not usually willing to address or confront. I had many questions answered while reading this book. Things that you may wonder about, wonder why they happen, he addresses with clarity. I would encourage you to pick up a copy for yourself. 

 

Donna is a student of a couple of semesters ago.  Her comments touched and thrilled me deeply because the words of my book are serving the purpose I assigned them:  to inspire individuals to awaken a desire to search for the authentic self, for the greatness within.

 

Hi, Felix,

I am writing to you tonight to let you know that I found a particular fondness for Chapter Nine:  The Meaning of Struggle.  For me, the chapter clearly defines what I once wrote in one of my papers for you about a conversation that I had with one of my brothers the last time that I saw him.  A conversation in which he had asked me if every day for me was like living a war, in which I answered yes.  (He was unable to understand why I feel this way).  Chapter Nine offered an excellent clarity and insight into why I may feel like I am waging war on a daily basis.  Particularly, I like the paragraph on page 114 which states:  "From a different point of view, the struggle represents a battle against yourself, against your weakness and inability to hold true to those intuitive thoughts, feelings and emotions that you feel best define you."  Outstanding!

I also particularly like what you wrote about, "I know that I do not know."  That is what I told you about myself during our first class together, Sociology-101.  I heard some giggles in the back of the room when that statement came out of my mouth, and often times people totally misunderstand that statement. 

When I told my mom that I was going to pursue an AA degree her reaction was, "But you have to take care of me."  I assured her that I will always take care of her, and I have not waivered yet from her care.

As time went by and I met you and took some of your classes, I am contemplating continuing my education to pursue a BA.SOC degree.  We will see.  Presently, I work full time, I am a full-time student, and full-time caregiver for my mom.  We will see.  I have very little time for myself, yet we will see.

Long before the days that Twisted Sister ever became a rock band, my brothers always called me Twisted Sister!!  Now, one of them actually "gets" it.

Currently, I am beginning Chapter Eleven but must concentrate on homework the remainder of my evenings this week. 

I am, struggling, fighting on,

Donna!

 

Paula Gsell posted on your Wall.

Paula wrote:
"Hi Felix, I am in the middle of your book. Thank you, it is very interesting and uplifting. I have spent the last 2 years getting real. And I now know that I can never go back to living life any other way. I keep working with my thoughts, slowly changing what needs to be changed as they come up. I believe we must be the change we wish to see in the world, it all starts with us. Thank you again for your powerful, enlightening book.
Love and light,
Paula"

Paula Gsell posted on your Wall.

Paula wrote:
"Hello Felix, I just finished reading your book. I totally enjoyed it. I especially love the part on genuine giving, that was a real eye openner for me. I guess I had never really looked deep into the art of giving. Now I have a much better understanding. I know somtimes we go through the motions with the things we do, but the Authuntic self is alway genuine in it's giving. I would highly recommend your book, it has been very helpful to me. I look forward to your next!!"